WATER COOLER BREAK (3.16.2020 - Somebody Loved)
It’s telling that I spent so much time talking about how important it is to connect even while we were required to avoid seeing each other in person. One of my favorite The Weepies songs.
It’s telling that I spent so much time talking about how important it is to connect even while we were required to avoid seeing each other in person. One of my favorite The Weepies songs.
During the pandemic, we started working from home. As a way to still connect with my friends, I started doing these water cooler breaks using Facebook Live. Social distance but emotionally connected was the goal.
Forever Young (cover) by Bob Dylan
Journey of Heroes: The Story of the 100th Infantry Battalion and 442nd Regimental Combat Team by Stacey T. Hayashi. Illustrated by Damon Wong.
Comics are a clear way to tell Japanese-American history. Stan Sakai wrote, “Loved Journey of Heroes, and artwork fit perfectly.” The art is “chibi,” where people are drawn with big round heads on miniature bodies. It makes people look cute. In this historically correct telling of solders in the 100th and 442nd US Army Regimental Combat Team, chibi illustrations creates a nice contrast to the seriousness of American history of racism, sacrifice, bravery, death, loss, and resiliency.
This comic is only 33 pages long. But packs in life in Hawaii before the Pearl Harbor attack, racism, the conflict between the Japanese-Americans solders from Hawaii and the Japanese-American solders from the mainland. That conflict goes away after the solders from Hawaii visited the American internment camps. They saw guns pointed at Japanese-Americans. They couldn’t believe these mainlanders volunteered to fight for a country that had treated them like the enemy. The story continues with the solders arriving in Italy and shows the battle to save the “Loss Battalion.”
These young men joined the army to show their country that they were Americans. Through their lives, deaths, and sacrifices they made life better for Japanese-Americans and all of America. This comic is one way we can teach our American history to future generations.
The 442 Regimental Combat Team became the most highly decorated unit of its size and time in combat in the history of the U.S. Army:
8 Major Campaigns in Europe
8 Presidential Unit Citations
18,143 Individual decorations including:
21 Congressional Medals of Honor
52 Distinguished Service Crosses
1 Distinguished Service Medal
9,486 Casualties (Purple Hearts)
560 Silver Stars, with 28 Oak Leaf Clusters in lieu of second Silver Star
22 Legion of Merit Medals
4,000 Bronze Stars
1,200 Oak Leaf Clusters representing second Bronze Star
15 Solder’s Medals
12 French Croix de Guerre with Palms representing second awards
2 Italian Crosses for Military Merit
2 Italian Medals for Military Valor
I highly recommended this comic. You can read mine or get your own copy at the Japanese American National Museum Store.
I told Cheryl that I am starting to accept that a situation in my life is not going to get better. In fact, it will get worst. I have been in denial that I could fix it.
That acceptance is new. That acceptance pulls down, makes heavy, and tightens my heart. Those are my physical symptoms of sadness.
Typically, when I feel sad, I’ll do something to distract myself. I count my blessings, think about three good things that happened to me and why, practice kindness, and use gratitude to gain the larger picture perspective.
But I'm trying something new. Thanks to participating in mindfulness and compassion meditation facilitator training and therapy, I am practicing being aware of, observing, and sitting with my feelings. Practicing to not judge my feelings as good or bad, wanted or unwanted, or to cling to or to avoid them. This is new for me. It is hard and I feel stupid.
But feeling stupid is good. Feeling stupid means that my mind/body is on the cusp of neural adaptation. I feel stupid because the neural pathway isn’t formed yet. Feeling stupid is a signal that I am about to learn something new and grow.
So last night, in bed, I talked to Cheryl about my realization, my loss, and my sadness. Cheryl listened, talked, cried, listened more, and supported me. Cheryl allowed me to be sad and confused. I’m sure it wasn’t easy for her to do. It wasn't easy for me to do. But Cheryl wants me to be able to feel what I feel and be who I am.
Cheryl held me and allowed my sadness to rise and stay and fade.
Cheryl is a remarkable woman. I find myself singing the last line from that song in Hamilton, “Hey, best of wives and best of women.”
This happened because Cheryl and I have gone through some serious and not so serious life events over the past 25 years together. We survived those and are committed to surviving the new ones that will come our way. We are committed to making the daily decision to love each other even when we don't feel like loving.
26 years ago, I prayed to God to bring someone into my life who would bring me closer to him. God answered and gave me Cheryl. I see God in Cheryl’s actions and love for me every day.
1. Breathe (In The Heights Original Broadway Cast Recording)
2. Enough (In The Heights Original Broadway Cast Recording)
3. I Wrote My Way Out (The Hamilton Mixtape)
4. It’s Quiet Uptown (Hamilton Original Broadway Cast Recording)
5. Non-Stop (Hamilton Original Broadway Cast Recording)
6. Satisfied (Hamilton Original Broadway Cast Recording)
7. The Money (21 Chump Street Original Radio Cast)
8. What the Heck I Gotta Do (21 Chump Street Original Radio Cast)
9. Where You Are (Moana Soundtrack)
10. You’re Welcome (Moana Soundtrack)
Video by Cami Takahara
Don’t e-mail others messages you wouldn’t want to receive yourself. - Christopher Peterson
I am a Muslim! And a Hindu, and a Christian and a Jew. - Gandhi
Although I have a regular work schedule, I take time to go for long walks on the beach so that I can listen to what is going on inside my head. If my work isn’t going well, I lie down in the middle of a workday and gaze at the ceiling while I listen and visualize what goes on in my imagination. - Albert Einstein
If I were to let my life be taken over by what is urgent, I might very well never get around to what is essential. - Henri Nouwen
Tears are the noble language of eyes - Robert Herrick
Teacher is the engineer of the human's soul - Chinese saying
Show me your friends and I will tell you what you are. - Spanish proverb
Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one getting burned. - Buddha
*Not everything that is faced can be changed. But nothing can be changed until it is faced. James Baldwin
1. This American Life - https://www.thisamericanlife.org
2. Codeswitch - http://www.npr.org/sections/codeswitch/
3. Invisibilia - http://www.npr.org/podcasts/510307/invisibilia
4. StoryCorps - https://storycorps.org
5. Decoder Ring Theatre - http://decoderringtheatre.com
6. PW Comics World: More To Come - http://www.publishersweekly.com/pw/podcasts/index.html?channel=2
7. The Positive Psychology Podcast - http://positivepsychologypodcast.libsyn.com
8. The TED Radio Hour - http://www.npr.org/programs/ted-radio-hour/
9. Southeast Christian Church - https://www.southeastchristian.org/sermons/
10. The Loveumentary - http://loveumentary.com/podcast-episodes/
Comics
Japanese films, especially by director Yasujirō Ozu
My dad's immigrant story
Value of group over individual
Appreciation of nature
Studio Ghibli
Furo and onsen
Kaisek
Temples and gates
Vending machines